My fiance Won't do Marriage Prep - what can I do?

If you want premarital counseling and your fiance doesn't, there may be many reasons. Let's address the most common. And by the way - we have a LOT of options that don't involve sharing your relationship with others. Check out our marriage preparation store. We even have vendors who gives discounts for you to work on your marriage.

 

My fiance is so busy and is rarely around. How would we even do marriage prep?

 

There are options, even for busy people who may even be traveling all the time! We have quite few different marriage prep books you can both read. There is also a personalized marriage preparation test, or inventory, you can both take on your own time, called The Couple Checkup.

 

 

My fiance says we're just fine and doesn't want to talk to a stranger about our relationship.

 

This is a completely understandable emotion. You can let your fiance know that group classes and even the online Power of Two class are confidential. You are never sharing information in the group. You can also take The Couple Checkup - the most powerful marriage inventory, backed bydecades of research and over 2 million couples participating. You'll get a 17+ page personalized report that you don't have to share with anyone.

 

 

My fiance is being very unreasonable, has no reason why we can't go, and I'm feeling very hurt.

 

As with many issues in married life, what matters more than what you are, or aren't doing, is how each of you feel about it. If there is a huge impasse and you're wanting marriage prep because it's important to you, you have to decide whether there is some underlying concern that your fiance isn't bringing up. If it's serious enough, you may want to carefully switch from "will you?" conversations to, "I really need this from you." Changing your tone, explaining more clearly the reasons why, and expressing your sadness and fears may help your fiance realize this is not just another nag but something worth pursing if for no other reason than for YOU.