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Take Back Your Wedding:
Managing the People Stress of Wedding Planning
From our book, available on amazon.com or in bulk through us.
Planning a wedding is one of the hardest things you will do in your life, and one of the most thrilling when it all comes together. The hardest part is not what you might think when you get engaged—dealing with all the logistics. The hardest part is dealing with the people. Here is a typical chat room post from a disillusioned bride-to-be:
I am seriously regretting the upcoming wedding, only because I have changed all my pre-wedding plans to accommodate others. Neither of my attendants makes an effort to call and ask what’s up (we live in different states), I have felt pressure to invite people I don’t want there (from both families), and I now have two flower girls, one of which I don’t really want in the wedding. I know I am just whining but I wonder if any of you scrapped the plans and are going to elope.
This bride’s regrets prompted immediate responses in kind. Here were the first two:
I think we've all WANTED to scrap it and elope! Planning a wedding is stressful and annoying, mostly because of everyone's "opinion" and dealing with TWO families! I think you should go along with your plans and make sure your wedding is what YOU wanted, not what everyone else wants. You only get one day, enjoy it. I'm just beginning to plan my wedding and I've already had requests as to what date works best for THEM! Ugh!
Ha-ha, the same with me. I would have to say my mom and I are becoming real stresses to each other even though we don't mean it intentionally. My dad mentioned us eloping, but I think that made my fiancé a little upset because he thought my dad was just trying to be cheap. We're Hispanic and so automatically that means it's gonna be a big wedding, so the planning part is just like whoa.…
Most weddings come off beautifully despite these hassles, and most couples are glad they did not elope. But too many brides and grooms feel like they have gone through hell getting to their wedding day. Shelves of books offer suggestions on everything from invitations to toasts, but any married couple will tell you that dealing with family members, wedding parties, and friends is the most challenging part of planning a wedding. Brides don’t lose sleep over floral arrangements but over conflicts with their mothers about floral arrangements. Grooms get flummoxed not over the guest list but over their bride’s insistence that they tell their parents to pare down a bloated guest list.
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